If your loved one chose a headstone before passing, consider yourself very lucky and loved. This is perhaps one of the most loving and caring things a family member can do before they pass; this way, it is not left up to remaining family members to choose a headstone during what is likely the saddest, most difficult time in their lives. When the decision is left to the family, they often feel that they must choose a headstone immediately and determine what to have inscribed.  This is really not necessary, and even if you put it off for weeks or months you will be grateful that you waited.  Why?  Because once you begin the healing process, you can think much clearer and you will make better choices, so that you have no regrets later.

Why are headstones so important?

Whether your loved one chooses traditional burial or is cremated and the ashes placed in a burial urn, a marker helps those in the future learn about their family heritage.  Most people choose to display their name, the date of birth and death, and some list their children's names as well, along with a special prayer, poem or saying that inspires the heart.  Family genealogy is a fast growing trend, and headstones are the way that many family members do part of their research; by looking at a headstone, they can make certain they have the correct name spelling and date of birth or death. If you are stressing about placing a headstone or memorial urn for a loved one who has recently passed, give it a bit of time.  Most importantly, think of what your loved one would have wanted.  Headstones today can be simple or elaborate, decorated in a delicate manner or stately.  Think first and foremost of your loved one and their passions in life; this will help make your decision easier when the time comes to choose the right memorial.

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